Finding your tribe of girl friends

tribe of girl friends

A lucky girl is blessed with a tribe of friends, the best of which are girl friends.  Boys, we think you’re great too but we love our girls in a truly, madly, deeply kind of way.  Finding your tribe of girl friends is easier for some than others;  sometimes we grow up surrounded by friends, (I was blessed to have a childhood like that), sometimes we find them in high school and college, and once in a while we find them at work or church or school, or in the carpool pick-up lane.

finding your tribe

However we find them, a girl with close girl friends is a happy one.

There’s an inexplicable relationship between two women, something not eloquently explained by even the greatest of poets.  A great tribe of girl friends will tell you honestly about the lipstick on your teeth, and help you fix your slip which has fallen beneath the hem of your skirt. They’ll help you find the perfect dress, and they’ll gently, kindly, tell you your boyfriend is kind of a tool.


Beyond that, a dear girl friend is there for you even especially in your darkest hours.  She’s the one who hugs you tighter than the rest when that tool of a boyfriend breaks your heart, (and doesn’t say ‘I told you so’) the girl who holds your hair when you puke, the one who makes you dinner when you can’t get out of bed.

finding your tribe of girl friends

My tribe of girl friends (besties, girlfriends, best friends, uteruses before duderuses) is one of the greatest sources of happiness in my life.  I’ve worked hard to maintain and cultivate many new (and old) friendships, and those precious relationships are some of the few things outside of my family that take priority over everything else in my life.

My girls are worth it.

finding your tribe of friendsOver the last 5 years (since starting Petit Elefant) I’ve stumbled upon some of my nearest and dearest girl friends.  I was fortunate enough to find amazing partners in crime/besties of the universe and business partners in Jane Maynard and Marie LeBaron and I’ll tell you what:

there is nothing in the world like a dear girl friend, nothing at all.

finding your tribe of friends

Jane and Marie are two of my best girlfriends; I was so happy to find them and am continually delighted with the depth and longevity of our friendships.  They’re living proof that friends can remain strong and true, in spite of distance.  We each live in a different state, and only see each other 3-4 times a year, usually at business conferences or events when we don’t have a lot of hang time to reconnect.  In spite of it all, our friendships have grown and deepened through the distance and when we reunite it’s that much sweeter.

finding my tribe of friends

During the holidays I run a chance of seeing one of them (we’ll see who it is this year!), and those meet-ups are always a highlight of the season.  Reconnecting with my girls fills me up, gives me strength, and makes me happy in a way nothing else can.

How did you find your tribe of girl friends?  Do you stay connected with friends all year long, or have friends you see once a year?  I’d love to hear about it, friendship is the sweet stuff of life.

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This post was sponsored by Hallmark.  I’m thrilled to be partnering with them in 2012 as part of their “Life Is a Special Occasion” campaign. As always all stories, opinions, and willfully disobedient children are my own.

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Hello there! I’m Allison Czarnecki, founder + editor of Petit Elefant, a blog all about style on a budget for every part of your life: style / home / travel / family. I do a lot of how-to beauty + style tutorials, travel posts, easy recipes, home remodel projects, and cool DIY crafts you totally want to try. I’m super happily married (to a hot Polish immigrant) and am the mother of two kids, a daughter and son, all of whom are featured here on the regular. We live in the country but we’re a little bit rock + roll. Welcome!


  1. LizzieB :

    Allison, this is the sweetest ode to your gal pals. Life is definitely better when you have a tribe:)

    • Allison :

      Lizzie, aren’t our gal pals the best in the universe? You’re definitely a good one, wish we lived closer! :)

  2. Jane Maynard :

    oh, allison, what a SWEET post. I feel sooooo blessed and honored to be your friend. seriously. no words. love you!

    • Allison :

      Ditto that miss Janey May. Love you to the moon and back.

  3. Kristen :

    I agree that you have some pretty amazing friends… and you fit right in!

    • Allison :

      Kristen, you’re definitely one of the women I’m so grateful to have met through these interwebs. I just adore you.

  4. Sarah :

    You nailed it! A true kindred spirit can be hard to find, but when you do, its like nothing else.
    I would imagine any one of these women would say the same about you, you are quite remarkable.
    love. you.

  5. Marie :

    Awwww, I love this post. So many fun photos of us. Friends are the best! Thanks for the love :)

  6. Angela England :

    That’s so true! It is always a blessing to have THOSE friends you can connect with. I’m like you – for me those friends have been people I met online and have developed offline relationships with as well. Priceless to say the least.

  7. jo_mi_co :

    LOVE THIS. y’all are just the cutest.