A lucky girl is blessed with a tribe of friends, the best of which are girl friends. Boys, we think you’re great too but we love our girls in a truly, madly, deeply kind of way. Finding your tribe of girl friends is easier for some than others; sometimes we grow up surrounded by friends, (I was blessed to have a childhood like that), sometimes we find them in high school and college, and once in a while we find them at work or church or school, or in the carpool pick-up lane.
However we find them, a girl with close girl friends is a happy one.
There’s an inexplicable relationship between two women, something not eloquently explained by even the greatest of poets. A great tribe of girl friends will tell you honestly about the lipstick on your teeth, and help you fix your slip which has fallen beneath the hem of your skirt. They’ll help you find the perfect dress, and they’ll gently, kindly, tell you your boyfriend is kind of a tool.
Beyond that, a dear girl friend is there for you
even especially in your darkest hours. She’s the one who hugs you tighter than the rest when that tool of a boyfriend breaks your heart, (and doesn’t say ‘I told you so’) the girl who holds your hair when you puke, the one who makes you dinner when you can’t get out of bed.
My tribe of girl friends (besties, girlfriends, best friends, uteruses before duderuses) is one of the greatest sources of happiness in my life. I’ve worked hard to maintain and cultivate many new (and old) friendships, and those precious relationships are some of the few things outside of my family that take priority over everything else in my life.
My girls are worth it.
Over the last 5 years (since starting Petit Elefant) I’ve stumbled upon some of my nearest and dearest girl friends. I was fortunate enough to find amazing partners in crime/besties of the universe and business partners in Jane Maynard and Marie LeBaron and I’ll tell you what:
there is nothing in the world like a dear girl friend, nothing at all.
Jane and Marie are two of my best girlfriends; I was so happy to find them and am continually delighted with the depth and longevity of our friendships. They’re living proof that friends can remain strong and true, in spite of distance. We each live in a different state, and only see each other 3-4 times a year, usually at business conferences or events when we don’t have a lot of hang time to reconnect. In spite of it all, our friendships have grown and deepened through the distance and when we reunite it’s that much sweeter.
During the holidays I run a chance of seeing one of them (we’ll see who it is this year!), and those meet-ups are always a highlight of the season. Reconnecting with my girls fills me up, gives me strength, and makes me happy in a way nothing else can.
How did you find your tribe of girl friends? Do you stay connected with friends all year long, or have friends you see once a year? I’d love to hear about it, friendship is the sweet stuff of life.
This post was sponsored by Hallmark. I’m thrilled to be partnering with them in 2012 as part of their “Life Is a Special Occasion” campaign. As always all stories, opinions, and willfully disobedient children are my own.